When I was 24 my father passed away. This was extremely hard on me because growing up I don't remember him being sick or having many medical problems. I had reached the age where our relationship had finally changed from being father and son to being good friends. I often think back and smile, thinking how smart he became between the time I was 16 and 23.
When my father first got sick, it was extremely hard on the whole family. The hospital he was in was the V.A. hospital, 4 hours away. That made it hard to be there for him, especially since he was in and out of the hospital for the last 6 months of his life. Just as well, he went through a number of surgeries.
The last 4 months he wasn't able to come home. For part of that time I was able to rent my mom in an apartment there so she could be there for him. Eventually, she had to give that up and move back home for financial reasons. The hardest part of the whole ordeal was when he passed away, he was was alone. We weren't able to be there with him to say goodbye.
In the following months after his death, my mom, my sister and I each had experences where my father appeared to us.
We all lived in the same house, my sister was the owner. It was divided into two apartments. I lived in the upstairs apartment and mom lived in the downstairs with my sister. Moms room was in the front of the house, she had several windows that face the street. She didn't drive.
So dads car sat in front of the house for several months until we were able to sell it. On more than one occasion mom told me that she saw my dad sitting in the car.
My sister was home alone one day, doing her normal house cleaning while her husband was at work and the kids were at school. She suddenly had a feeling that she wasn't alone. She looked up and saw dad standing in the doorway between the kitchen and dining room, smiling at her.
On another occasion her whole family was in the living room watching TV one night, and there was a large mirror on the wall over the fire place. It didn't exactly fall, but slowly slid down the wall, over the mantel and onto the floor, it came to rest in front of the fireplace without as much as a chip to the mirror.
My own experience was slightly different, it came in the form of a dream. In my dream I found myself walking down the street in a downtown area that didn't seam familiar. There was a row of store fronts I was walking by, when I came across my dad, standing in the doorway of one of the stores. He was leaning against the door frame and smiling at me. I stopped and asked him how he was. He told me he was doing good and not to worry about him.
You may think this was just a dream, but this was the most vivid dream I have ever had. I'm writing this over 40 years after I had it, and I remember it as clear as if it was from last nights awakening.
So I'm convinced this was his way of telling each of us good bye, in a way that would be meaningful to each of us.
D.L.Garvin